What exactly is a soul tie? How is an ungodly soul tie formed? What are the consequences? How can it be undone? How can you have an ungodly soul tie without knowing it?

“This is why a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife; and they become one flesh” (Gen.2:24), was reinforced by Yeshua: “‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate”(Matt.19:5,6); and re-stated by Paul:“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”(Eph.5:31).  This illustrates an ideal Godly soul tie.

Other godly soul ties are demonstrated by healthy relationships between family members, and healthy friendships, such as what is described as that between David and Jonathan: “Jonathan’s soul was knit to David’s soul, and Jonathan loved him as himself . . .  Then Jonathan cut a covenant with David, because he loved him as himself” (1 Sam.18:1,3); “Then Jonathan said to David, “Whatever you say, I will do for you!”” (1 Sam.20:4). 

“A soul-tie is a bonding (good or bad)which holds people into a relationship whether they like it or not. When people are abused an ungodly soul-tie is established between the abuser and the the abused. This acts rather like a demonic tube along which the demonic may transfer from one person to the other. This is especially the case if there has been an emotional or sexual bonding between the abuser and the abused” (Horrobin, Vol.2, 1995, p.150). “Soul ties are relationship . . . . the tie is what comes out of the relationship. ….. A good relationship is a blessing; but a bad relationship is a cursing . .. . if we enter into a relationship that is ungodly, you are tied to someone who is ungodly” (https://youtu.be/VMIA4-7YmTA), Horrobin explains.

“When people go outside of what God has provided, there is still a tie with that person  . . . . you become one flesh with them, and flesh includes the soul . . . . when the ungodly relationship is over, there is still a tie” (https://youtu.be/VMIA4-7YmTA). Just because that relationship ends, the soul tie does not. “The carrying around of an ungodly soul tie, ties the individual to that person until it is broken . . . . only God can do that; in order for God to do that, the person must confess, repent, and ask God to forgive and to cleanse  . . . .” (https://youtu.be/VMIA4-7YmTA). 

Just as much as one must confess/repent, one must also forgive. Especially in those situations where one has been abused, molested, raped, incested, violated in any way and it is so difficult to forgive, yet without forgiveness, there can be no complete healing or deliverance: 

“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matt.6:14,15). (In the second Horrobin video there is a great example of this).

“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God” (1 Cor.6:9-11). The occurrence of activities which perpetuated ungodly soul ties in any of this will need to be dealt with in order for them to be broken. “We have to bring our lives into Godly order” (Horrobin, https://youtu.be/4fgQfop_uPs).

“When people have sex together, it is a joining of soul/spirit/body. . . . when a sexual relationship that is ungodly is over, those ties are still there . . .  God ordained an order for sexual relationships . . .”  Having given access to the Enemy by participating in an act not ordained by God, the Enemy has been given legal rights. Through such legal rights,  demons enter into the person. Given permission to establish authority over that area of the individual’s life, it cannot be altered until confessed, repented, and the soul tie broken, and the demonic cast out. As pointed out by Horrobin: “We have delegated authority to cast out demons, but we also have free will. . . What happens in an ungodly relationship, the Enemy gets involved . . .” (https://youtu.be/VMIA4-7YmTA ). “Through ungodly relationships we are obeying the god of this world . .. . actually a form of worship . . .  given permission to the Enemy to pass on an unclean spirit. We then need deliverance to get rid of that unclean spirit.”

Marital bonds are examples of godly soul ties; but that does not mean that there may not be ungodly components of the soul tie. In cases of mental/emotional/verbal/physical spousal abuse, the dominating witchcraft spirit from the abuser opens a door for demonic entry; and this component of what was intended to be a godly soul tie, takes on an ungodly dimension. “Manipulation and domination within the marriage relationship is responsible for a huge amount of marital unhappiness and is nothing but sin! Marriage does not entitle either partner to use the cover of a marriage bond to tie the partner into being the victim of what has become an ungodly soul-tie” Horrobin goes on to give an example: “Early in the marriage the husband will lose his temper violently . . .  for the rest of the marriage she tiptoes round her husband so as never again to awaken the ‘sleeping giant’. . . . husband has his wife totally controlled through fear. That aspect of the marriage is ungodly and demonic” (Horrobin, Vol.2, p.130). “Even though two people are married, they are not allowed to use each other sexually in acts which would otherwise be categorised as abusive or perverted . . . . perverted sex, even inside marriage, is a direct demonic entry point . . .  even married couples who have practised sexual perversions have needed deliverance” (Horrobin, Vol.2, p.131). Marriage, although intended as such, does not necessarily, in and of itself, constitute a Godly soul tie.

In the same way, what should be Godly soul ties between parents and children, can become extremely ungodly through the domination and abuse of/by a parent. Sexual abuse/incest by a parent or other family member will open a door to demonic entry and create an ungodly soul tie, which will follow the individual throughout life, with many consequences, until the curse which was formed, and the ungodly soul tie, are broken. Physical and emotional abuse, depending on the degree and intensity will open doors; but no one thing is as certain as the sexual door. 

There are many different occasions and possibilities whereby the ungodly soul tie escapes recognition. “For example, a girl may have been sexually abused only once in early childhood. Traumatic though the event may have been at the time, it is likely to have been well buried amongst the other events of the past. However, the demon which came in through the incident has not forgotten, so when the girl marries . . .  “ (Horrobin, 1995, Vol.2, p.136). This ungodly soul tie will usually manifest in a spirit of rejection/self-rejection, fear, and the likelihood of its harmful effects on any future marriage is high.

Peter Horrobin’s “Christ For The Nations Lecture On Soul Ties and Forgiveness,” https://youtu.be/4fgQfop_uPs  is another excellent teaching.

“The restoration of God’s order is the fulfillment of God’s purposes for people’s lives.” Horrobin goes on to say: “God designed sex to be part of marriage, between one man and one woman. When there are sexual relations outside of marriage, the Enemy is being worshipped . . . . sex is not only a bodily experience; our body, soul, and spirit are involved” explains Horrobin; and that is why sex outside of marriage sets up an ungodly soul tie. It is essential to understand  that “you must renounce the pleasure of it . . . .” emphasizes Horrobin (https://youtu.be/4fgQfop_uPs ), in addition to the act itself; “and then pray for deliverance  . . . but everything can be dealt with . . . We have to bring our lives back into Godly order . . .  We’ve got to deal with these soul ties. We must repent of these relationships, ask God to break those relationships, unjoin them, ask God to forgive and deliver . . .”

All sexual abuse, rape and fornication, whether, adulterous, premarital, or otherwise, will not only create ungodly soul ties, but open doors to the demonic. Undealt with, they will create unhealthy behavioural/relational patterns, as well as curses, affecting all future relationships, including the relationship with the Heavenly Father, as a barrier is formed between the individual and God the Father/Yeshua/Holy Spirit.



1 Sam.18:1,3

1 Sam.20:4


1 Cor.6:9-11






Healing Through Deliverance, Vol.2, by Peter Horrobin, Ellel Ministries, Sovereign World, 1995, www.ellelministries.org

Peter Horrobin, Ellel Ministries, “Sexual Immorality, Deliverance, Part 1”     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VMIA4-7YmTA&feature=youtu.be

Peter Horrobin, Ellel Ministries, “Christ For The Nations Lecture On Soul Ties and Forgiveness,”  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fgQfop_uPs&feature=youtu.be     


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